Feeling Free

Let’s take a few minutes to focus attention on the way you want to feel about reaching to feel better and better.

Right now, as you breathe and settle, soften the focus of your eyes. Close them if you like and stretch your out breath if it feels good, breathing out and out and out and out and out.

You may like to choose a colour that feels good and breathe that colour in through your heart and out from your heart… That’s it.

Now turn your attention to the freedom you would love to feel. Freedom to feel good, to reach for good feelings, to relish the way you would like to feel more and more of the time.

Wouldn’t it be lovely to feel relaxed and comfortable with reaching for the best feeling thoughts? Won’t it be great when you have found a way to allow yourself to feel good easily and steadily and wholeheartedly! Isn’t it lovely to imagine being strong and confident, knowing that when you feel fully good, you are at your best and can give of your best to others?

You may feel a mixture of things right now as you imagine enjoying the way you want to feel. You may find thoughts contradicting your attempts to turn attention towards the feelings that appeal to you most. Perhaps you don’t feel you are allowed to feel proud of yourself, to feel sure and steady in taking good care of yourself.

You may have felt responsible for the way others feel for a long, long time. It may feel alien, wrong even, to stop and amplify the way YOU want to feel first, before going anywhere near doing things for others.

Wherever you are, whatever your story has been, you are always in the perfect place to reach for relief. This is the perfect time to allow yourself to focus single-mindedly on feeling good.

Others may have turned to you in their attempts to feel better themselves. As you learn to feel good by following your own Feel Good Rule, you enjoy your life more fully.

As you enjoy your own life more fully, you become more present in each moment. As your presence grows, your energy rises. There are fewer thoughts of past or future draining your energy away.

As you bring soothing to yourself, you can offer soothing to others. As you nurture yourself, your kindness flows out to others. The better you please yourself, the easier it is to share your joy with others.

Whatever you may be used to thinking, you can choose to replace old default thoughts of responsibility, duty, obligation and guilt with new thoughts of strength and ease and confidence and relief. If you want to, you can create new default settings. Where you used to feel guilt, you can feel free and confident and relaxed instead.

Imagine how life would be if you could feel strong and steady, relaxed and free, no matter what others are doing. Imagine the ease and freedom you would enjoy if you could no longer think - ‘I should feel this, I should do that’. How would things change if you could no longer feel guilt?

If you want to feel good, wholeheartedly, enjoy that desire, even if it feels way out of reach. Enjoy the thought of feeling free, feeling strong. Confidence to feel good without needing to justify it or give it up for the sake of those who might not approve grows as you love your desire.

As you practise beating the drum of the feelings you want to enjoy, they become more accessible. Simply using the words, ‘I love,’ or ‘I like’, connects you to the feelings you want. As you send love to these emotions, you tune into them. You resonate with them more and more with every moment spent in appreciation of them.

So, let’s bring this together with a rampage of appreciation on a few feeling states that you might want to tune into more easily.

I love feeling strong. Strong feels so good to me, I love the fact that strong feels like the core truth of who I am. I love being strong.

I love feeling confident. I love the way I move and speak and think and behave when confidence is flowing through me. I love being confident. I love how I sound. I love the things I say to myself and others when I’m feeling confident.

I really like the idea of feeling ease and relief, I love the idea of feeling free when someone wants something from me. I love the idea of feeling strong and easy and free to say ‘No’ if that feels good to me. I love the way I feel when I do look after myself and give myself the satisfaction of doing what works for me. I love the idea of feeling free and strong about doing what’s best for me.

Softly imagining these thoughts each day for a few days is all it takes to make them more and more familiar. As they become familiar, you will find them easier and easier to access. Soon they will become the most active thoughts you have. Your default will be more and more often, to look after yourself, without hesitation. You will choose what feels good, and feel totally aligned with that choice, because by nourishing yourself, you have your fullest, most loving self to offer to others.

Wonderful work!

Take a nice deep breath in… and let it out. Open your eyes and continue with your day, knowing that you are loving the world when you truly love yourself.